Interference
1. Don't go into the dugout to give instructions.
The girls have coaches, and they have worked hard on developing cohesion and a mental attitude toward the game. Yelling out
tips, advice, correction, or criticism will in no way improve your daughter's performance. The same principle holds true in
yelling out advise from the sidelines. Keep in mind, the content and accuracy of the information is not the issue. Help not
asked for is criticism. If your daughter has not asked for your advise, then don't give it.
2. Don't question the coach's decisions during or between games.
As a parent, you have a right to your opinion regarding playing time, attitude, criticism, etc. However, I recommend the 24
hour rule - speak to the coach 24 hours after the game. By then, the dust has settled, tempers have cooled, and saner heads
prevail. At that time, be specific as to your concerns. Beginning at approximately 14 years old, I believe it is important
for you to empower your daughters, and teach them to take care of their own needs. Rather than speak for them, encourage them
to speak up for themselves.
3. Don't make a spectacle of yourself during the game.
Loud and rude comments to umpires, opposing coaches, or even opponents may seem humorous to you, but your daughter is cringing
in the dugout with embarrassment. Always keep in mind that you are a role model, and act on the field the way you would want
your child to behave.
4. Don't tell your daughter everything she has done wrong on the ride home from the game.
Trust me, this is not what is considered quality time and sharing. You may
thing it is helpful, but she feels criticized. In addition, she already knows that the error she made in the seventh inning
that allowed the winning run to score was not good, and does not need to be reminded of it by you.
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